Why motherhood is uncool

“Yaar, tumne toh ek seat waste kar di” (you have wasted seat!). This was a statement made at a party by an otherwise gracious hostess, to gently rebuke an errant guest. The seat in question was a management degree from one of India’s top business schools, and the guest stood accused of wasting her education by opting to be a stay-at-home mom. I found the statement judgmental and offensive. But I was aware that it reflected a viewpoint that is prevalent in many people, in varying degrees. This mindset is troubling, as I believe that it is one of the … Continue reading Why motherhood is uncool

Why do men rape?

This is a sample of what India is reading about, almost daily now: An eight-year-old child was raped by her neighbour, in Baranbaki (UP).[1] A five year old in Delhi was raped, tortured, mutilated, and left to die with a slit throat.[2] A four year old was raped and strangled in Seoni (MP),[3] leaving her with critical brain injuries. As the number of reported cases continues to rise, the victims seem to get younger. Many are minors, some barely out of their diapers. In some incomprehensible cases, they are mere infants. As people struggle to come to terms with such … Continue reading Why do men rape?

Will the anti-rape bill make me safer?

The Indian parliament is debating an anti-rape bill. The bill has various provisions, which include changing the term “sexual assault” to “rape”, and adding voyeurism and stalking to criminal offences. Some of these are welcome measures while others are open to debate. However, as a woman I wonder how much the bill will really change the ground realities? At the India Today Conclave 2013, Dr. Arun Shourie had said, “instead of tougher new laws, we need to implement the existing laws.” I agree with this view and believe that laws are meaningless unless they can be enforced and paired with … Continue reading Will the anti-rape bill make me safer?